Are You Building Your Husband Up or Tearing Him Down?

Build your husband up. Don't tear him down.

Nic and I have gone through our challenges this past year. For the most part I have felt like we’ve worked through them. However, I was recently hit with the question of whether I was building him up. The question that followed was that if I wasn’t building him up, was I tearing him down? Read more

Don’t Let Money Control Your Life

Get yourself out of debt

Since becoming a freelancer I have sometimes felt like I’ve scrambled to make ends meet. Truthfully, however I’ve always had money that I could pull from in these moments. I just don’t want to become comfortable with that idea and pull from all of my backup money. At the end of the day, however, to me money is a renewable source. I always have the ability to make more. If I need to get a job tomorrow, I know I could. I just prefer this life that I’ve created for myself and my family. Read more

Retirement is Overrated

Traditional retirement isn't all that it's made out to be

When I say retirement is overrated I’m talking about traditional retirement. The idea that after working for 30 to 40 years we are going to find ourselves with riches and a utopian life just isn’t what it used to be. When I started my job at Apple I thought to myself, “Is this where I’m going to spend the next 30 years of my life?” Read more

Be Kind to Yourself

Be kind to yourself especially during the holidays

The holidays are such a joyous time. They can also be such a stressful time for so many of us. I had a great Thanksgiving weekend. I also had moments where I questioned myself and what I was trying to do with my life. It sounds dramatic and it was to some extent, but this is a common problem that so many of us have. Read more

The Joy of Creating

There is so much joy in creating something entirely on your own.

It’s been a year now since I’ve worked for a company. When I think about my life then, I realize there are things I miss like the steady paycheck and benefits. But aside from that, when I think about the actual work, I am so grateful for where I am now. Yesterday I came to the realization that it’s not necessarily that I dislike conventional careers, but that so many of them don’t allow us to be creative. I realized that for me, there is importance to creating. Read more

How Morning Mantras Can Change Your Life

Say a mantra each morning to transform your day

For the last few weeks I’ve been trying to remember to say my morning mantra as soon as I wake up. Sometimes I remember immediately after my eyes open. Sometimes it comes to me as I’m meditating, an hour or so after I wake up. It’s not the time that I say the mantra that’s necessarily important, but that I remember to say it at some point during each day. It does help if it happens to be in the morning, however. I’ve found that this mantra can really set the tone for the rest of my day. Read more

Loving People For Who They Are

Let's learn to love people for who they are instead of who we think they should be.

Once you become a parent you automatically begin to feel this need to ensure that your children are living up to certain expectations. Are they meeting all of the milestones the doctors and schools tell you they should be? Do others applaud you for how well behaved they are? Are they geniuses, artists or inventors? Read more

Why You Should Embrace Your Gifts

Don't let insecurities stop you from embracing your gifts
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Are you watching the current season of Dancing With the Stars? I rarely watch any TV anymore, but this is one show that I absolutely love. The dancing is phenomenal and the stories always seem to pull at my heartstrings. It’s just one of those darn right feel good shows.

One of this season’s contestants is Frankie Muniz aka Malcolm in the Middle. Despite his sometimes awkward and nerdy persona, which you might think would hold him back in a competition like this, Frankie is actually a really good dancer and is going into the semi-finals of the competition.

Frankie has had mediocre dances and then he has had mind-blowing dances. Overall, however Frankie cannot seem to grasp the fact that he can in fact dance. Since episode 1 he’s been basking in a sea of insecurities and self-doubt. In the first few episodes I easily let this uncertainty go. It’s understandable that he would be nervous and therefore question his abilities. Now that the show is going into the semi-finals, however, I want to reach into the television grab him by the shoulders, shake him and tell him to own his dancing skills. Read more

Money and Security

Where does our fear of money and security come from?

For the past year I have been trying to let go and let life lead me with regard to money. I know that the Universe will always provide for me monetarily. Despite knowing this, however, I could not let myself completely trust and let go.

This weekend I realized that the reason I could not let go was because to me money represents security. Therefore, I didn’t want to trust anyone but myself for providing me with this security. Read more