While on this journey toward learning to love myself I’ve had multiple breakthroughs. One of these breakthroughs was realizing that I am enough. Exactly as I am. At this very moment. That one took awhile for me to grasp, so I’m going to repeat it. I am enough. Exactly as I am. At this very moment.
I’m an overachiever. I’m constantly thinking about ways that I can do better and be better. I always want to grow, which is great. However, constantly thinking about growth doesn’t give me the time to appreciate who I am in the present moment.
Who are you at this moment? Are you enough in your eyes? Why or why not? The concept of self-love is still a bit awkward for me. If it is for you too, think about yourself as if you were your partner. Can you honestly say that you love your partner exactly as they are in this very moment?
Show Yourself Compassion
I believe most of us would say we love our partners as they are. Even with their flaws. Yet, it’s hard for us to say the same of ourselves. As a society we’ve been trained to be hard on ourselves. To expect the impossible.
These unrealistic expectations do nothing for us except push us further away from our true selves. Women especially are critical of themselves. But think about it. When was the last time you benefited from putting yourself down? Did your negative words make you accomplish your goals?
Negativity and criticism provide us with no value. Yet, we mindlessly do this day in and day out, out of habit. Be compassionate toward yourself. If you are truly doing your best tell yourself that. If you’re not, do better and encourage yourself to take action and to succeed.
Love Yourself Through the Journey
You may not be where you want to be in life. But those goals have nothing to do with how much you can love yourself. If you have kids think about them for a minute. They are continually growing and changing and we love them every step of the way. We don’t say “once you pass first grade, then I’ll finally love you.” It sound ridiculous but it’s what many of us do to ourselves. When we get our dream job we’ll love ourselves. When the weight comes off we’ll finally embrace our bodies. That perfect partner is what will finally bring us joy.
Goals and intentions are great. I have a million of them. However, these shouldn’t deter you from embracing the amazing human being you currently are. It’s only when you can realize this amazement that you can truly begin to enjoy your life.
Isn’t that what life is all about? We’re wired to grow and to change. It’s the fun of being human. During all of this change, however we shouldn’t forget to embrace and love who we are. We are enough no matter where we may be in our journeys. Enough to love wholeheartedly in this very moment.