Do you love yourself? It’s an awkward question for most of us. I’ve discovered recently, however that it’s one of the most important questions to ask yourself. Your relationship with yourself is one of the most critical ones you have.
We’ve been told that before we can truly love others we must love ourselves. What does loving oneself actually consist of? And how does one go about doing so?
When asked whether we love ourselves the majority of us would answer with something like “sure, I guess.” This answer is not bad. There is no right way to love yourself. However, if you love yourself you will truly know it.
Loving Yourself Deeply
Think about your significant other. Hopefully you’re still madly in love. Think about the love that you have for this person. You can probably feel the love in your bones. There is no hesitation when questioned whether you love him or her.
Imagine if you told your partner that you guessed you loved him or her. Imagine if they told you this. How hurt or disappointed would you be? Yet, when we do this to ourselves we don’t think twice about it.
If you don’t already love yourself deeply you should. There’s a reason airlines tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before assisting others. If you’re not filling your own love tank up how can you have any fuel to fill up others?
For many of us loving ourselves feels like selfishness and self-indulgence. But, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Selfish and self-indulgent people rarely love themselves. People who truly love themselves give so much to the world. Their energy draws others toward them and they spread light wherever they go.
Journey to Self-Love
I’ll be the first to say that learning to love yourself is not easy. I have just begun. When I first asked myself whether I loved myself my answer was “Of course. I am confident, hardworking and determined.” When I sat and thought about it, however I wasn’t answering the question. I was simply rattling off characteristics that I assumed one would have if they loved themselves.
You don’t love people for their characteristics. You love them for who they are as a whole person. Loving ourselves is hard because most of us have no clue who we are . So how do we get to know ourselves? By spending time with ourselves.
In the same way we date to get to know potential mates we should “date” ourselves. Find out what you truly love to do. Take yourself out. Tell yourself you love yourself. This last one is so uncomfortable to do if you haven’t done it before. But, in the same way that many will start to believe negative things that are continuously said about them, you’ll start to truly believe you love yourself when you continue telling yourself you do. Over and over again.
The Most Important Person in Your Life
You are the most important person in your life. You are stuck with yourself for as long as you live. Friends and family can and will come in and out of your life. However, you will never leave yourself. Why not learn to love yourself and make this journey of life as positive and joyous as possible?
Take time this new year to truly learn more about yourself. To start the journey toward self-love. To stand in your truth and radiate while doing so. Learn, change and grow into a person you enjoy being around. Continue doing so until you are truly committed to yourself for the rest of your life. This is my goal. I want to one day declare that I am madly and utterly in love with my whole self.