The holidays are such a joyous time. They can also be such a stressful time for so many of us. I had a great Thanksgiving weekend. I also had moments where I questioned myself and what I was trying to do with my life. It sounds dramatic and it was to some extent, but this is a common problem that so many of us have.
I have so many ideas. So many things that I want to do. Sometimes they’re simple like the dishes that I wanted to prepare for my family’s Thanksgiving potluck. Other times, it’s more complicated like what I’m trying to accomplish professionally. When the stress starts creeping in, and when my ego becomes louder than my heart and soul, doubt presents itself. I start to wonder whether everything is worth it.
With the hustle and bustle of all of the things I had to do this weekend I didn’t have much time to meditate. Late nights left me exhausted, which meant I slept in and didn’t get the alone time I usually had in the mornings. My professional writing opportunities started to pick up and I began rehearsing all of the assignments I needed to work on in my head everyday.
I was overwhelmed. A feeling I hadn’t felt for a while. Who was I trying to become and why did I think that I could do all of this? Why isn’t Nic helping me? Why do my kids have to start acting up now? Questions, insecurities and self-doubt were so prevalent this weekend.
I finally took some time to meditate. Uncovering my center, I told myself that I didn’t need to do it all — I should just focus on one thing at a time. I treated myself like a friend and showed compassion toward myself. I stopped blaming others. My problem was with my mind, not with something outside of me. I felt so much better after doing all of this.
The Power of Kindness
Kindness is powerful. It has the ability to transform a possibly disastrous situation into a positive one. What most of us often forget is to show kindness to ourselves. We are only human. We will make mistakes. Being overwhelmed and stressed may happen and that’s all okay.
The holiday hustle and bustle is only going to continue. Take time to remember what’s truly important. Stress is unavoidable, but remember that the world will not end if we don’t get every single item checked off of our to-do lists. Be kind. Give thanks and when you do get overwhelmed, remember the real reasons this is the most wonderful time of the year — people, love, laughter and joy.