Break Down Emotional Walls

We build emotional walls around ourselves in order to protect ourselves from the outside. From those that may harm us, hurt us, and attack our well being. However, these walls only end up doing one thing – they lock us in. They lock us into our fears and our doubts. They make us prisoners in our own lives. They lead us into lives we were never meant to live. Read more

Transform Your Life

One year ago on this very day, we packed up our whole lives and made the journey from San Francisco to Minnesota. I was nervous, excited and filled with thoughts. For the first time in such a long time I was following my intuition, my heart, that voice deep within me that I had been ignoring for so long. I had no idea why my soul led us to make this drastic decision, but all I knew was that I wasn’t fulfilled with the way we had been living. I knew there was more to life than simply working for money and using that money to enjoy what little time we had together. I could have never predicted what lay ahead for me in the coming year. Read more

Savor Life’s Journey

Have you ever reached a destination, only to count how much time you have left to be there?

Have you ever felt excitement about the delicious meal on your plate only to realize that within a couple of minutes you have already scarfed it down without really, truly tasting it?

Have you ever taken your kids out to spend quality time with them, only to find yourself thinking about the millions of things on your to-do list and not even really paying attention to the feelings and emotions that your children are experiencing?

Have you ever sat through a course only for the benefit of saying that you completed it?

Unless you are an enlightened person who has discovered how to truly go through life, most of us are guilty of one or more of the above scenarios. We are so eager to complete the tasks and even the recreational things we set out for ourselves in our lives that we don’t simply take the time to actually enjoy them — while we are are doing them. Read more

The Need to be Right

For a very long time now I always felt the need to be right in whatever may have been in debate. It didn’t matter if it was being right about who a celebrity may have dated in the past or being right about when we needed to take the car in for maintenance. Big or small, I had to be right.

Sometimes this need made for a good laugh especially when it was about something that had little meaning. On the other spectrum, this need has caused huge fights and heartache. I used to have a saying, “if i’m willing to argue my point, 99% of the time I know I’m right.” This made me feel like I was willing to let things go if I was unsure of them, but if I felt in my core that I was right, I wouldn’t stop until you gave in. Read more

Faith, Spirituality and Religion

I didn’t grow up religious. We had attended church for a while when I was young, and I explored religion as a teenager and young adult. However, I never felt like I could completely identify as a religious person. Probably because I could not wrap my head around the fact that there were only two sides of the world that you could be a part of — the believers or the non-believers. You could be a completely decent human being, but if you did not believe in the one true God, you were going to Hell. Read more

Live Your Truth

After sharing the struggles I went through in my marriage, I received so much feedback that my heart felt an overflow of love and connection. I received everything from advice on how others handled struggles in their own marriages, to stories on how others experienced exactly what Nic and I went through.

Although I was hesitant to share my story because it was so personal and intimate, I am thankful that I did because it provided others with the comfort of sharing their stories with me. For me, there is nothing more powerful than being able to share our experiences with one another — the experiences that move and shape our souls, whether these are joyful experiences or experiences that test our strength. Read more

Choose Compassion

We all suffer in one way or another, yet most of us are so quick to point out the misgivings of another as we go about suppressing our inner struggles and displaying a perfected exterior.

We label ourselves and each other which only divides us more — democrat, republican, blue collar, white collar, middle class, wealthy, poor, white, black, yellow, red, brown.

At the end of the day we are all human. We are more alike than we are different. The DNA of every human is 99.5% similar to any other human. 99.5%! Read more

Why Marriage is so Hard

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Saying that marriage is hard is an understatement. Nic and I got along so well when we were dating and everything was so easy. We barely fought in the three years that we dated, we always had a good time together and there was a lot of love between us. There was no doubt in my mind when I said “I do” that he was my forever and ever.

Five years later and two kids thrown into the mix really shook things up in our marriage. Of course we had to throw in a cross country move and a complete overhaul of our lifestyle just to make it more interesting. Read more

How Money Controls Our Lives

For those of us who watched the Mayweather v. Pacquiao fight two years ago, we were sorely disappointed. We felt like neither side was giving it their all, and that at the end of the day they were both doing it for money.

I roll my eyes every time I see a new celebrity promoting Proactiv and claiming to have acne problems. From someone who really had a problem with acne, the photoshopped pictures of celebrities with bumpy skin claiming to be acne really hit a nerve, especially when I know they are getting paid ridiculous amounts of money for it.

The Kardashians probably have enough money to live a couple of lifetimes over comfortably without ever having to make another cent. Yet they continue to create apps and products to build up their fortunes. Read more