Let Go of Expectations

how to let go of expectations

To truly realize why and how we should love ourselves, we must also understand what has been holding us back from loving ourselves completely. One common barrier is our need to measure ourselves against the expectations of society, others, and even ourselves. There are so many expectations that are put upon us from birth. These beliefs were created for a variety of reasons. However, most exist in order to mold us into the same types of beings.

A Self-Love Exercise

self-love exercise, journey to loving yourself

Talking about why and how we should love ourselves is great. But it doesn’t help if we don’t actually put anything into action. Today I want to walk you through a powerful exercise that can help you get to know, appreciate and love yourself more.

Have you ever felt someone looking directly at you and yet they are looking right past you? They see you, but they don’t really see you. This is how most of us look at ourselves everyday. We wash our faces, brush our teeth, and put on makeup all while staring at ourselves in the mirror. Yet, we don’t really take the time to look and appreciate the wonder of who we are. Who this person that we live with everyday is.

You are Enough

You are enough. Exactly as you are.

While on this journey toward learning to love myself I’ve had multiple breakthroughs. One of these breakthroughs was realizing that I am enough. Exactly as I am. At this very moment. That one took awhile for me to grasp, so I’m going to repeat it. I am enough. Exactly as I am. At this very moment.

Uncover Your True Self

Uncover your true self. Learn to love yourself.

One of the first ways we can learn to love ourselves is by uncovering our true selves — who we really are. In his book Mindfulness for Beginners, Jon Kabat-Zinn describes life in two ways. He says life is like a basketball game. There is what is actually happening on the court. And then, there is the commentary of the game.

The commentary can distract us from what is actually happening on the court. The commentary of life includes our thoughts, values and beliefs. Sometimes the commentary is helpful and other times it is not. What kind of commentary have you been listening to about yourself?

Why You Should Love Yourself

Why and how you should love yourself

Do you love yourself? It’s an awkward question for most of us. I’ve discovered recently, however that it’s one of the most important questions to ask yourself. Your relationship with yourself is one of the most critical ones you have.

We’ve been told that before we can truly love others we must love ourselves. What does loving oneself actually consist of? And how does one go about doing so?

Time is an Illusion – Don’t Let it Control You

Is time really real or is it an illusion?

Yesterday I came to the conclusion that time is silly. Time is an illusion. By time I mean the human invented time. The hours on a clock, watch or phone.

I was sitting with the family eating breakfast. I didn’t have my watch or phone nearby. For some reason I was dying to know what time it was. I knew I didn’t have anywhere to go for hours. But the pull to know was driving me crazy. I didn’t give into it, however.

Why are we so obsessed with time? Most of us feel like we never have enough time. Is this because we truly don’t have enough time? Or is it because we spend most of that time thinking about it?

A Letter About How I’ve Changed

a letter about how i've changed

Dear Family and Friends,

Thank you for being a part of my life. I know that I have gone through a lot of changes in the last year, which have caused some of you to wonder what is going on with me. Some of you may miss the “old me”. But please know that I wasn’t happy being that person.

Are You Building Your Husband Up or Tearing Him Down?

Build your husband up. Don't tear him down.

Nic and I have gone through our challenges this past year. For the most part I have felt like we’ve worked through them. However, I was recently hit with the question of whether I was building him up. The question that followed was that if I wasn’t building him up, was I tearing him down?

Don’t Let Money Control Your Life

Get yourself out of debt

Since becoming a freelancer I have sometimes felt like I’ve scrambled to make ends meet. Truthfully, however I’ve always had money that I could pull from in these moments. I just don’t want to become comfortable with that idea and pull from all of my backup money. At the end of the day, however, to me money is a renewable source. I always have the ability to make more. If I need to get a job tomorrow, I know I could. I just prefer this life that I’ve created for myself and my family.

Retirement is Overrated

Traditional retirement isn't all that it's made out to be

When I say retirement is overrated I’m talking about traditional retirement. The idea that after working for 30 to 40 years we are going to find ourselves with riches and a utopian life just isn’t what it used to be. When I started my job at Apple I thought to myself, “Is this where I’m going to spend the next 30 years of my life?”